10 Principles for Guarding Intimacy in Marriage Part 11

Today, draws to a conclusion our look at principles found in the 10 commandments which we can apply to guarding intimacy with our spouse. Not legalistic, binding laws, but principles that can guide us in our decisions.

Catch up: part 1part 2part 3part 4part 5part 6part 7, part 8part 9, and part 10

You should not covet… Exodus 20:

For you and me: Don’t want or try to get what everyone else has.

Wanting what someone else owns and working to get stuff like our neighbors shifts our focus to things of lesser value than intimacy.
Trying to do everything our co-workers, friends and people on television do will fill our lives with a cluttered schedule.  
The grass tends to look greener in someone else’s yard and comparing ourselves to those around us can easily build resentment.  
With resentment in our hearts, a cluttered schedule and our focus on what has little value, it shouldn’t surprise us when intimacy with our spouse disappears from our marriage.
Putting into practice the greatest commandment of all, “…love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength…” instead of wanting what others have, will find us closer to God. And as we each draw closer to God, we will find ourselves closer to each other and the intimacy we crave.

What do you think? Can the principles behind the 10 commandments help us to set healthy boundaries to guard intimacy in our marriage? Which principle do you need to work on? 

About Angela D. Meyer

Angela D. Meyer writes fiction that showcases God’s ability to redeem and restore the brokenness in our lives. She is the author of This Side of Yesterday, The Jukebox Cafe (a part of Hope is Born: A Mosaic Christmas Anthology) and the Applewood Hill series. Angela is a member of American Christian Fiction Authors and has served on the leadership team of her local writers’ group, Wordsowers. Angela currently lives in NE with her husband. They have two children, both of whom they homeschooled and graduated. Lucy, a green eyed, orange tabby, who loves popcorn rounds out their family. Angela enjoys sunrises and sunsets, the ocean when she gets a chance to visit, and hopes to ride in a hot air balloon someday.

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