Have you ever gotten so caught up in something that you let go of the most important? That happened to me with the release of my first two books. I had every intention of handling all my responsibilities and opportunities. Did I tell you I’m big on responsibility? I pretty much feel like I’m responsible for everything around me. And everything everyone else thinks I out to do. I know. It’s not a healthy outlook. God is helping me change my perspective, but there you have it. The mindset that bogged me down.
I have heard it said that if you see someone who looks like they have it all, they’ve sacrificed something to get there. I never came close to looking like I had it all (not for lack of trying), but I attest to the fact that something always suffers if you try to go that route. Especially if you try on your own! And it’s usually not something bad that suffers. Our choices are typically not a matter of choosing between good and bad. It’s more often choosing between good, better and best. In my case, the urgent usually won out, leaving the most important in the looser’s circle.
After Where Healing Starts released last year, my husband encouraged me to take a sabbatical. To just stop. Rest. Take stock of where I was and where I wanted to go. I did so for a couple of months then hosted a blog party here on my website during December. In January, I was done. I had nothing left to invest so I backed off. Even though I had one project I was committed to working on, in all other ways writing, I pretty much stopped.
I thought my sabbatical would be a couple months into the new year. But as I leaned in to discover God’s priorities, taking care of first things first, I found all things writing pushed to the back of the line. Only recently have I tiptoed closer to finishing the third book in my series and rejoining the online world. And I do so with a bit of trepidation.
To prevent getting lost along the way, I intend to (do my best to) remember some things I learned this year.
- I don’t have to meet everyone else’s expectations.
- I don’t have to follow all advice given by the experts in marketing.
- I’m not responsible for everything and everyone around me.
- There are seasons for various priorities in my life.
- Understanding God’s purpose for me will direct my choices.
I’m looking forward to sharing more of what I learned this year of sabbatical. To encourage you to stand, grow and thrive in your journey!
PS: One book that really helped to gain a better perspective about my choices was Essentialism by Greg McKeown. Greg gives you a road map to making the best choices possible. I highly recommend his book.
Have you ever struggled between making good, better & best choices? How did you determine the best choice?